Embracing the Unknown

Anna Welch, Advanced Clinical Fellow 

In a world that often values certainty and control, stepping into the unknown can feel unsettling. We're taught to seek answers, make plans, and avoid uncertainty at all costs. However, in our desire for clarity, we may overlook the growth and opportunities that come from embracing the unknown.

The unknown can stir up fear and anxiety, making us question what lies ahead and whether we're making the right choices. While we crave certainty, the reality is that life is inherently unpredictable, and trying to anticipate every possible outcome is impossible. It may seem daunting to surrender to uncertainty, but by doing so, we often find that embracing not knowing is more aligned with reality than attempting to predict the unpredictable

Letting go of the need to control every outcome begins with cultivating self-trust. If your self-trust feels shaky, ask yourself what you need to restore your confidence. Are there past wounds still affecting your sense of security? Is there a self-doubting voice that undermines your confidence? Whose voice is that? Where does it come from?

Therapy can be a powerful space to explore these questions and rebuild your self-trust, guiding you toward a healthier, more compassionate relationship with yourself. Constantly trying to predict every possible outcome is like running on an endless treadmill—exhausting and ultimately unproductive. Instead, try shifting your energy toward trusting yourself to handle whatever life brings your way.

A mantra or affirmation can be a helpful tool in this process. For example, you might try: “I trust myself to handle whatever comes.” Repeating your chosen phrase can ground you in the present moment, helping you face the unknown with more courage and confidence.