Masturbation as an Act of Self-Love

Sam Silor, MHC-LP

During this time of year when it seems like “love is in the air” all around us, I like to reflect on one of my favorite forms of adoration—Self-love. We’ve all heard about the importance and benefits of maintaining self-care/love habits. But it may be time to dust off the old “bath-and-wine” act and inject a little Va-Va-Voom into your routine! What better way to *ahem* spice things up than with masturbation? It may sound a little atypical to think of masturbation as self-care but hear me out…

When it comes to self-care/love, we often forget about the experience of pleasure. We tend to limit ourselves to the realm of relaxation (think: aromatherapy & meditation) and I’d like to formally invite you to step into the blissful world of release! While historically masturbation has been insnared in myth & mystery, our current understandings tout its many advantages--both physical and mental. International research has identified countless health benefits to masturbation including stimulating endorphins that combat pain and relieve stress, reducing bodily tension, improving sleep, raising self-esteem & body image, and strengthening pelvic/anal muscle tone (just to name a few.) Not only that, but masturbation also helps you figure out what things you like and what things you’re comfortable with.

Try to challenge any cultural or religious standards that say masturbation is “bad for you” or “dirty,” or that it’s reserved for just one gender or one relationship status. It’s a human thing--just as natural as our other bodily functions and needs such as hunger or thirst. The more we begin to normalize the conversation around masturbation, the more it can help improve our relationship not just to others, but to ourselves. So go ahead, show yourself a little love and self-care this season!